They say the first step to solving your problem is acknowledging the problem. My problem is that I am addicted to sex.
It’s so bad that I’ve caused issues in previous/current relationships. Distrust and a clouded vision were the only things remaining after the anticipated point of climax. It’s almost like I only understand why I shouldn’t have shed my clothes after they are on the ground with the cleanup towel balled up on top. So what’s next for me?
Celibacy seemed to be the only option. I thumbed through google and blogs trying to find other solutions to my problems but celibacy was the only one that made sense. Great, I’ve admitted the problem and found a solution, what’s next?
Step 1 : Stop talking to any and everyone I have previously had sexually contact with. Out of sight, out of mind. Temptations and “wyd, pull up” messages cannot be answered if I delete contact names and put them on do not disturb.
Step 2: Apologize to the person who I’ve hurt majorly by my poor decisions of heat. Tell them I am getting my shit together and pray that things still work out for us.
Step 3: Stop listening to my sex playlist and getting too high. That’s a deadly combination but I won’t elaborate too much on that. You all get the picture.
Step 4: Invest in a vibrator. Don’t need to receive the things from others that I can do for myself. Use as often as necessary. Whenever temptation or that warm feeling creeps in, I must rush to my underwear drawer and grab ole girl.
Step 5: Stop talking about sex. This just might be the hardest. Several of my group chats have been juicy with stories and tips, yet I must refrain from reading, responding, or emphasizing any messages pertaining to back arching and head. The majority of my group chats have been on mute for this reason, sorry girls!
Okay, so what’s next after these 5 steps are practiced daily? Hopefully, progress. I have now been celibate 34 days. They say it takes 30 days to break a habit so I have officially passed the mark. It has not been terribly hard. The main person I want to engage with is in a different state and let’s just say I am not their favorite person at the moment. It’s funny because the whole reason I did this was for them or “us”. Yet, I have reached so many conclusions about my worth and identity with the lack of sex. I am just fine. I can think much clearer without interrupted thoughts of tangled limbs and deep moans.
Next up, regained trust and sex with the one person I really crave it from once I have learned my lesson and done my time.
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